Violence Against Women Buffalo NY

Remember: Domestic violence can happen in any type of relationship, income level, environment or culture. Common myths associated with domestic and intimate partner violence include as follows.

Richard C. Southard
(212) 385-8600
115 BROADWAY RM 1703
NEW YORK, NY
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Domestic Violence, DUI, Federal Crime, Violent Crime
Education
Brooklyn Law School
State Licensing
New York

Peter A. Sell
(212) 280-6848
225 W. 14th Street Suite 2
New York, NY
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Civil Rights, DUI, Violent Crime, White Collar Crime, Health Care, Appeals
Education
University of California - Berkeley,University of California - Los Angeles
State Licensing
New York

Amy Huiya Hsu
(516) 741-3400
180 Froehlich Farm Blvd
Woodbury, NY
Specialties
DUI, Federal Crime, Speeding Ticket, Violent Crime
Education
John Marshall Law School, Chicago,SUNY Stony Brook
State Licensing
New York

Michael Keith Bachrach
(646) 797-2776
276 5th Ave Rm 501
New York, NY
Specialties
Criminal Defense, White Collar Crime, Violent Crime, International Law, Appeals
Education
Yeshiva University, Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law,Sarah Lawrence College
State Licensing
New York

James W. Winslow
(845) 764-4287
5031 ROUTE 9W
NEWBURGH, NY
Specialties
Criminal Defense, DUI, Violent Crime, Speeding Ticket
Education
Brooklyn Law School,State University of New York
State Licensing
New York

David V. Marrone
1180 MORRIS PARK AVE
BRONX, NY
Specialties
Medical Malpractice, Construction, Violent Crime, Slip and Fall Accident, Car Accident
Education
St John's University School of Law,University of Maryland, College Park
State Licensing
New York

Anthony John Colleluori
(516) 741-3400
180 FROEHLICH FARM BLVD
WOODBURY, NY
Specialties
Federal Crime, Violent Crime, DUI, White Collar Crime, Fraud, Civil Rights, Criminal Defense
Education
Hofstra University School of Law,Tufts University
State Licensing
New York

Valerie Hope Tocci
(712) 286-6000
12501 Queens Blvd
Kew Gardens, NY
Specialties
Violent Crime, Domestic Violence, Fraud
State Licensing
New York

Alan Michael Abramson
(212) 226-7098
35 Worth Street
New York, NY
Specialties
White Collar Crime, Violent Crime, Internet, DUI, Criminal Defense
Education
Quinnipiac College,Rutgers University
State Licensing
Connecticut, New York

Glenn H. Morak
(212) 226-7098
35 Worth St
New York, NY
Specialties
White Collar Crime, Violent Crime, DUI, Criminal Defense, Internet
Education
American University, Washington College of Law,Boston University
State Licensing
New York

Violence Against Women

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Prevailing myths about intimate-partner violence often encourage denial about abusive situations and prevent women from getting the help they need. Remember: Domestic violence can happen in any type of relationship, income level, environment or culture. Common myths associated with domestic and intimate partner violence include:

  • Myth: Family violence is rare. Truth: Although statistics on family violence are not precise, it's clear that millions of children, women and even men are abused physically by family members and their closest relations or partners.

  • Myth: Family violence is confined to the lower classes. Truth: Reports from police records, victim services and academic studies show domestic violence exists in every socioeconomic group, regardless of race or culture.

  • Myth: Alcohol and drug abuse are the real causes of violence in the home. Truth: Because many male batterers also abuse alcohol and other drugs, it's easy to conclude that these substances may cause domestic violence. Substance abuse increases the risk for and lethality of the violence. But for some men, battering begins when they come off of drugs and other substances. Substance use and abuse are not excuses for a batterer's behavior or for his failure to take responsibility for his behavior, however. In addition, successful completion of a drug treatment program does not guarantee an end to battering. Domestic violence and substance abuse are two different problems that both require treatment.

  • Myth: Battered wives like being hit, otherwise they would leave…Truth: The most common response to battering—"Why doesn't she just leave?"—ignores the economic and social realities facing many women. Shelters are often full; and family, friends and the workplace are frequently less than supportive. Faced with rent and utility deposits, day care, health insurance and other basic expenses, the woman may feel that she cannot support herself and her children. Moreover, in some instances, the woman may be increasing the chance of physical harm, death or losing her children if she leaves an abusive partner.

Are you in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship? Here are some questions to ask yourself about how you are being treated by your partner and how you treat your partner.

Does your partner:

  • Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?

  • Put down your accomplishments or goals?

  • Criticize you for little things?

  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?

  • Control your use of needed medicines?

  • Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?

  • Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?

  • Tell you that you are nothing without him or her?

  • Control how you spend money?

  • Treat you roughly—grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?

  • Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?

  • Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?

  • Blame you for how he or she feels or acts?

  • Pressure you sexually for things you aren't ready for?

  • Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?

  • Destroy your property or things you care about?

  • Prevent you from doing the things you want, like spending time with your friends or family?

  • Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson?"

Do you:

  • Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?

  • Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's behavior?

  • Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?

  • Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?

  • Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?

  • Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?

  • Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship. If you do not seek help, the abuse will continue.

Ultimately, you can take the first step toward getting help by confiding in your health care professional. If you find yourself in a health care professional's office, an emergency room or clinic for treatment as a result of abuse, take the opportunity to talk to the health care professional about why you're there. Today, many health care professionals are trained to notice signs and symptoms of abuse, and they know how to help you. It might be up to you, however, to bring up the topic.

For the rest of this article, questions to ask your health care professional, information on treatment, prevention and more, click here.

Author: Editorial Staff of the National Women's Health Resource Center